Thursday, April 12, 2012

Well, this is pretty offensive...

OK, Democratic adviser/operative Hillary Rosen said a completely freaking idiotic thing this morning on CNN, for which she has quite rightly apologized. For those who haven't heard and don't want to click links, she made the highly ill-advised comment that Ann Romney "has never worked a day in her life." It matters not that what she probably meant to say was that Ann Romney has never *had* to work outside the home a day in her life. That, I think, is indisputably true. But the comment she made has all flavors of wrong wrapped up in it: Attacking a candidate's wife (who by all appearances seems to be a perfectly nice person even though there's not a chance in hell I'm going to vote for her husband) by implying that she's lazy; leveling what is indisputably a cheap shot; and, for good measure, implying that staying out of the paid workforce and raising a family is not "work." It was bad, it was clumsy, and if she hasn't been fired from her position I would fervently hope that she's been at least reassigned for the duration of this campaign cycle to some position that does not involve yapping in front of a camera.

And of course, the whole thing provoked massive outrage on the right (and, to be fair, quite a lot on the left as well). This was predictable. Which is why, totally aside from whether on a moral level the comment was acceptable, it was a pretty bad political misstep. But my attention was drawn a short time ago to one particularly nasty, outrageous, and offensive piece of response on the right, courtesy of the Catholic League. Here's their lovely Tweet. If you can't or don't want to get there, here's what they decided to post to their Twitter account (and as of this writing, haven't had the good sense to take down yet): "Lesbian Dem Hilary Rosen tells Ann Romney she never worked a day in her life. Unlike Rosen, who had to adopt kids, Ann raised 5 of her own."

Well, that's just absolutely dripping with Jesus, isn't it? Wow, she's a Lesbian! That means she's worthless! For the record, I don't have the faintest idea whether Hillary Rosen is gay or straight. Hell, before noon today I'd never heard of the woman. I cannot imagine anything less relevant to the current conversation than the gender of this woman's preferred sexytime partner. But let's just assume for the moment that she's gay. Well, there's a nice comment, right? Ann Romney is better than Hillary Rosen because she's straight instead of some nasty dyke.

And then, POSSIBLY EVEN BETTER, Ann Romney is better than Hillary Rosen because Hillary Rosen adopted her children while Ann "had 5 of her own."

OK, that one's right in my wheelhouse. You know what, Catholic League? Fuck you. Fuck you twice. Fuck you one million times, and not in a nice way either. This, mind you, is an organization that is rabidly anti-choice, no doubt frequently touting adoption as being the duty of a woman who finds herself unexpectedly pregnant and not in a position to raise the child. You can't be a mother to this child? Honey, it's your duty to incubate it and then turn it over to someone who will. Except that this particular tweet would seem to indicate what that particular author's opinion is, anyway, of someone who is "stuck" adopting a child. Hypocrite.

I am the mother of two children. I gave birth to one, under less-than-storybook circumstances, but I knew I wanted to be a mother and I was in a position to raise her as a single mother (and fortunately for me didn't have to be a single mother forever). But it was MY CHOICE to give birth to her and not some religious bishop's choice, thank you very much. And I am also an adoptive mother. You know what? They're both "my own." They're both MY CHILDREN.

At least have the sense to take down your stupid tweet and apologize for it. And also, in case I haven't said it, Fuck you.

2 comments:

Brenna said...

I should say, because some my remarks come off a little harsh, that I have absolutely no beef with the obviously valid choice that many women make--assuming it is fully and freely THEIR CHOICE--to place a child for adoption. It's a wonderful thing, adoption is. I'm obviously all for it. I'm just pointing out the irony here of having a representative of a virulently anti-choice organization making such an incredibly derisive comment about adoptive parents, implying that they somehow aren't really a family the way birth parents are.

Brenna said...

And, of course, I would be remiss if I did not mention that my wonderful husband is also an adoptive parent--of two children, in his case. They're both his kids, too.